What can you cut out that will help you design the life you want? The magical one you dreamed of when you were six years old?
Most people would agree that to get what you want, you have to know what you want.
That’s logical but have you noticed that when you accomplish a goal, buy something you want, or end a relationship, your wants change? It’s like you shed a part of your old self and become something new.
Here’s the question: how do we specify what we want if what we want always changes?
It’s like trying to grab air; you can feel it, see its effects on the world around you, but come up empty-handed when you reach for it.
The gurus tell you that you have to be specific with what you want. You have to see it using visualization exercises because your thoughts are things that attract like-minded things.
There’s a lot of — thoughts, stuff, vibration, frequency, attraction, magnetism, flying through space — going on with these types of conversations.
I understand that it’s about energy and magnetically attracting similar vibrations, but these ideas have always been hard for me to swallow.
That law of attraction and having a positive mental attitude doesn’t account for the people who are naturally skeptical, even negative, that still create massive success without using these tactics.
I can tell you that they aren’t spending their time reciting feel-good affirmations, smiling in front of a mirror for 30 minutes a day, and using visualization exercises to get what they want.
Pessimistic people who are successful are not outliers. They are effective people.
I’ve read countless books like this and have I enjoyed them because they made me feel good, but that’s all they did. They were just a temporary relief from my pain. When the high from the sweet words was over, my problems were still there waiting for me.
I don’t want a temporary relief or a false sense of hope. I want an actionable plan that will get me to where I want to go. Not a band-aid that covers up the fact that I don’t have the life I want yet.
I have big dreams and want to know how to achieve them. I want to build my castle in the sky. I don’t think I’ll be able to smile all the way there, but I will when I start to get closer.
Do you have to be super specific with what you want, then spend your mental energy visualizing it all day so that you can attract it to you?
Maybe you want enough income to have a maid clean your house twice a week, pay all your bills, and have enough left over to invest in real estate or a new business.
I have many whats. I’m not concerned about the specific dollar value of what I want, it’s the lifestyle that concerns me.
I want a life that I’m excited to live, one where I’m a powerful shaper, rather than a punching bag that endures each day, strategizing the next move, but never moving further down the road.
Everyone wants their castle in the sky. Some people have it and others don’t.
It’s not because that person was more positive.
I’m not talking to the lazy, entitled folks here who have never worked for anything and expect things to be given to them.
I’m talking directly to the person that bleeds for their cause, that has true talent, but has something broken with their methods.
They are stuck on a chariot on fire with broken spokes, going in circles, and after every pass, the dirt around them gets higher and higher. People can hardly see the blaze as they sink deeper into their abyss.
Are affirmations and brainwashing the pair of wings that will rescue you from that friction that drives you into the ground?
I don’t think so but why is there so much conflicting advice on how to succeed in life?
Some successful people say:
1) Follow your passion
Yet others say:
2) Don’t follow your passion
Who is right?
Your castle in the sky is different than mine but let’s agree on a few things — the foundation that we share.
You’re not Mother Theresa and there’s no reason to try to pretend you are. You don’t have to be a martyr for your cause just to make a point, or be a positive junkie!
All castles need money, a solid foundation, first.
From my experience, you won’t self-actualize with your passion if you’re struggling to pay for basic necessities like food, water, shelter, student debt, insurance, and cell phones.
Financials struggles will block your potential by demotivating you every day, among other damages to your confidence and relationships. It’s Maslow’s hierarchy all over again but we seem to forget it.
Being broke and exclusively “following your passion,” (which I’ve done extensively) is no way to live.
Passion is connected to the spiritual side of who you are. We live in a modern society and can’t go safely into the spiritual before we take care of the physical.
We are wild animals at heart; if we are starved and left out in the cold, we will grow desperate and do what it takes to survive. We will become irritable, reckless, and even hostile.
When we are pushed hard enough, affirmations and law-of-attraction thinking will shatter against the need to overcome the physical, these basic necessities.
Money is a basic necessity. Why not put it as a first priority?
We’ve been brainwashed to think otherwise: think positive thoughts, tell ourselves how great we are, pump ourselves up, visualize what we want, the Universe will manifest it if we are persistent with thoughts.
What a load of bullshit…
Luck and coincidences happen but you can sit there hoping for a coffee cup to appear. You need to learn how to get the money to buy it.
We can’t forget our basics needs to survive in the pursuit of our passions. And yet, a lot of artists do this thinking they’re some kind of martyrs. You’re not a martyr. You’re just broke and being broke sucks. You can’t pay for your life. How is that ever good?
You don’t need to pay the price of time to justify your art. That’s just misplacing what you need to do to survive and reach your potential.
If you don’t eat, you’ll starve to death. That means you’ll never have a true shot at pursuing your passion at the highest level. Take it literally or figuratively.
It’s as simple as this (took me 15 years to accept).
Wouldn’t it be easier and less stressful to pursue your passion, your art, your legacy, if you weren’t stressed about money? Most would say yes.
If yes, then why don’t you focus your full attention on making money to put you in that ideal position, that place of power, of ultimate leverage?
That’s what this is about. Putting yourself in a position of power where you can rule your castle the way you see fit.
This is not even the gate of your castle, it’s the rocks in the ground, the soil that holds it all together, the plates of earth that form the foundation of what you will build on in the future.
- Don’t forget that you need to survive
- Passion alone will not keep you alive
- Money is the foundation that you will build on
Cut out relying on the law of attraction — become effective at bringing in the cash.
It’s a lot easier to be positive if you have enough money to support yourself. Being positive will be natural because you can control your life through the opportunities that you deal with effectively.
In addition, you won’t have to condition yourself or use some mind control. You’ll naturally feel like a boss because you’re effective at getting what you want.
Let’s face it, you won’t be happy if you don’t get what you want no matter how much effort you put into a passion or into visualizing your success.
Move through the world from a place of power, not from a place of weakness.
Being broke is a weakness and a direct threat to your survival. Stop relying on mental exercises to make yourself feel better about your situation. Only by becoming more effective can you improve your situation.
Going around all day, visualizing what you want to manifest in your life is simply daydreaming backed with inaction. Positive thinking, no matter how intense or persistent, won’t make you an effective person.
If you’re going to build your castle in the sky, learn how to become more effective and take the steps to do that every day.
Undeniable happiness and positivity will be the byproduct. Not because you condition yourself to be that way, but because you’re a badass who rules over your kingdom.